You know, the questions i posed in the blog before has been a great ongoing issue in my life. I thank you all for all the great feedback, i am blessed to know that there are so many human-kodoks out there. In a world where inter-human-trust is at it's lowest, i feel like there is a light at the end of a very long tunnel. Something to me, is proven.
My issues are however are something that i guess will never be resolved because hearts are too closely linked and i handle it the best way i can, whenever i face it.
What happened in the bloggers comments was a great exercise, so many people opening up to share their thoughts and some maybe even start to think about their own issues regarding the matter.
Life is about balance, i vehemently believe and concur with my religion on that matter. When the scales are tipped to either side tto much eg. , not caring or even, caring too much, there will be a price to pay, that then will somehow equalise the situation. BUT one thing is for sure, SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN!!
When you don't give money, after giving many times, it doesn't mean you don't care... it means you're frakking broke!! or It COULD ALSO MEAN... that you want the person to find an alternative source of income in order to live, hence forcing him/her to get off their royal backsides to do something. Only a heartless father would let his family starve, when he knows he can do something for them to survive!! ...
the problem i believe stems from our culture of EXPECTING. I come from the mental state that when you do something, especially something good, and EXPECT nothing in return, you have not set yourself up for dissapointment. You see many times WE SABO ourselves by expecting people to act a certain way, when we do something for them and when they don't ,we get hurt.... you see how by EXPECTING you have basically just punk'ed yourself.
Our culture is laden with this value... we expect the government to help us all the time when we create a hole for ourselves, and when they don't, they are bad.....
we expect our family to respect us because as a man, we are the leader of the family even though we are never home, too busy, etc. for the respect to be gained.....
a woman expects her partner to get it on and on and on all night, because women believe men can supposedly get it up at anytime because we have sex on our minds all the time and are more gatal then women. BUT when we can't,.... we're having an affair?? ...... ok the last example is just a selingan ok. takde kena mengena dengan orang hidup atau mati. heehee.
My point is that is why the islamic concept of saying 'Ikhlas' is very powerful. Because it means what i am doing is sincere, from the bottom of my heart and i don't expect anything in return.
WHEN one doesn't come from EXPECT, whenever somebody does something favourable for you in return, it feels like a gift. a bonus from god if you like. MOST IMPORTANTLY, YOU DON'T SABOTAGE YOURSELF INTO HEARTACHE AND PAIN.
That is why in the business world, they have reworked the EXPECT factor out, by making people sign contracts. NOW I EXPECT YOU TO DO SOMETHING BECAUSE YOU ARE HAVE AGREED TO A LEGAL BINDING DOCUMENT TO DO SO AND IF YOU DON"T, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SUE YOUR ASS OFF IN A COURT OF LAW, WHERE YOU WILL THEN BE SENTENCED TO GO TO JAIL AND GET YOUR SALAD TOSSED BY AN OVERSIZED FELLOW INMATE WITH AN OVERSIZED RIGHT ARM ETC. ETC.
That is why god gave us free will isn't it?? so that we can rise above animals and not become creatures of habit but beings who are constantly trying to find a way to become better... although i am not extremely knowledgable religiously, but isn't that what the religion requires of all of us.
But then again, this is just the opinion and ramblings of a COMEDIAN who everyone EXPECTS to be funny all the time.
IKHLAS TAPI JAUH
PS next post will be a cheerful one i promise!!.. heehee i will also be giving clues to the teka kaki competition. Plus PROJECT : AFDLIN SHAUKI DAH HILANG AKAL update. FILEM RAKYAT PROJECT. and many more goodies... chow chin
u memang ramai peminat lar..
tapikan i x pernah i anggap u a COMEDIAN but more to a CREATIVE person..
anyway, all the best n good luck
:) hope you find your peace of mind!
awak best! hehee
Ah finally someone who speaks a different language from the majority. An in every term you've said, it is trully a gift when you don't expect something in return, thus you can appreciate it far beyong. That's when we know how the little-est things in this world meant the biggest in our lives.
It's just a matter of many minds to speak this same language as well..one fine day.
great to know that things are fine over there. We all have these "moments" u know. But that's what makes life more ..exciting and challenging, the unknown, the mystery, the always ever changing and ups and downs of feelings....the uncertainty of matters at hand. It's always somehow for a reason!!!
Ur a very nice person btw, and comedian or not, that is some social role you conform to whenever ur performing, but every each of us in indeed human and associate to one another...
have a fun weekend..
Montpellier is pretty cold right now.
Expectations, most of the time, is only a mere hope...
agreed! i've always been saying this to my gf, but women just don't get it i guess! sheesh...
God's given wealth is to be shared
God will always be there for you
you are not alone in this world babeh! its the common things or issues we face in our life which connects us. agreed? be proud man, be very proud. we all here love each other and we all love you as our entertainer and most of all our brother. tu pasal kitorang visit your blog and give our feedbacks/brickbats.
all in all, spread love... in the right way.
Your right afdlin...
IKHLAS is the word...
aper yang kita buat kalau ikhlas kita tak EXPECT aper2 balasan maka kita takkan terluka di lain kali sekiranya tidak dihargai...
Ermm...Comedian ni kene funny ke at all times...come on ..semua tau kan yang diorang juga ade feelings...and it's not wrong to express your what u feel..
I setuju ngan Hani...u are more to a creative person...you are different...
dalam Arabic nyer literature ... IKHLAS adalah seperti "SEEKOR SEMUT HITAM DI ATAS BATU YANG HITAM DI MALAM YANG GELAP GULITA"
Afdlin ... macam mana yer nak dapatkan t-shirt promo BULI BALIK color merah tu ... that day, tengok your wife pakai, cantik gak.
yep..afdlin mmg ramai peminat!!!
i really love to read your blog..it speaks about reality...
Everybody in the world is a comedian...they don't realize it actually...when u go to public and do a funny stuff and people will laugh vigorously, then someone will said "ur funny guy", funny = comedian...comedian is a funny guy...creativites is a credit for comedian....
Dude, I just have to share with you and your readers something that a good friend of mine once said that can be deemed within the vicinity of the same time of the stuff you mentioned (or as we say in Malay, "dalam kawasan-kawasan yang sewaktu dengannya"):
People are busy with their lives and priorities.
Protect more of your heart, so that you will hurt less.
Expect less so that when they do, you will feel more. -- Md Zin
yup totally agree. after been cheated for so many times, a business contract is the only way to do it. Otherwise, kepala kene pijak laaa.
hmm.. memang susah jadi comedian kan? i can see the burden u have to bear... all those expectations that u hv to b funny all the time. Tak tau comedian nih pun ader hidup jugak. ada masalah sendiri. But most of all, adflin, don't loose ur sense of humor, ever. remember aper paklah cakap. kene buat rakyat gembira selalu. besar responsibility tuh. Remember, big POWER comes with BIG RESPONSIBILITY.
"buat baik akan dibalas baik" maybe we told of this have it instilled dalam diri. so each time we do something good we expect the same. and it doesn't..aiyok it hurt.
Yeahhh brudderrrr...kodoks is here with u....haaa....dun worry...satu lagi dh dapat sorang designer yg boleh wat poster, dia yg design dark water 2 punya movie poster, berpengalaman 5 thn dlm industri design2 nih...dush2..sekian info..tq
Hey.. glad to"hear" yr cheerful voice again.. Whenever i read yr "happy-happy" posting, i'll always imagine u're actually "reading" it to us, yr fanz cum frenzz.. full of fun n laughter...
p/s: ketawa blh buat awet muda!! have a good weekend!! da!
nathing much to say...when we speak alone and if someone listen they just dun really understand about it...they just not try to understand....they dun want to....
ppl tend to take things for granted....take things advantage....
but if you sincere....it will be paid...one fine day....
love for all those who live with full of sincerity, honesty and toughtful...
aper yg u cakap mmg serius kali nie but good for all of us....
sometimes comedian (u yg ngaku tau)can tell serius things better than other.....
i really hope the clues for teka kaki competition...nak kasut adidas.......
wow... that was a deep post. i suppose there's one in every family. you know, the one that expects something from you and their only defence is that they're "family". so, yeah, that was a deep, deep post.
Glad that we could share our thoughts. And I'm very glad to see u opening up to us. It makes us feel very special man..
BTW, did u read The Malay Mail today. There's a story about a blogger who want to bring an 'anonymous' person to justice for posting a seditious message on the Internet. Does this story sounds familiar to you..?
There's a copy of the story at my blog.
Usually when we do things without expectation, we will not suffer from disappointment. However, there will be a time whereby you will feel tired of giving and not getting anything in return. That is why most givers will appreciate the littlest things done to them. I suppose.
Just to let you know that even a comedian is a human being. We don't expect you to be funny all the time. Everyday is not a bright day. Sometimes ada rain sometimes ada 'katrina'. It's life.
Semoga Mr Afdlin sentiasa berbahgia di samping insan yang tercinta n sukses didalam apa jua yg Mr Afdlin lakukan
Air muka mencerminkan ketulusan isi hati.
Dont believe me, take a look around...
There are those always scowling, frowning with sour face and clouded eyes, looking down on others. Then, there are those who seems angelic, with much sincerity in their eyes, who smiles genuinely..
Anyway, it's an easier life when lived in sincerity and honesty. A simpler life as well. :-)
Comedian? Joker? Entertainer? Prankster? Humour-induced Therapist?
Talent is not much without guts. It's the whether you have the courage to pursue what you dream to do. Not many can do this so hat's off to you, sir!
Don't bother with the labelling. Heck, label yourself whatever you fancy if you don't like the labels others have unceremoniusly slapped on ya!
ha ha, call me pretty girl even if i'm not. just drop-dead gorgeous. ;-)
(waiting for the darts to hit me!)
Mana satu gambar bini kodok yer? (Dalam gambar kat bawah yang Mia Sara ambik tu). Ada sesiapa sudi nak tunjuk?
Ps: Nak jadi ahli Fellowhsip of Kodoks, kena la kenal dan cam semua kerabat rumah Chief Kodok, kan? :)
you are right.
expectation tu is the killer
like dont expect people to come in and post only good things.
dont expect people to love you.
i was a teacher at one time and i got frustrated juga because i "expect" my students to not guris my new motorbike.
i had a celebrity girl friend at one time and i got gila because i "expect" her to be faithful.
i dunno lah.
this is life.
sometimes garam is masin when put appropriately
but sometimes cincau also manis.
like karam singh once said:
"seperti cari buah di hutan,
jumpa harimau aum dia makan"
ok bro kodoks.
sometimes i run
sometimes i hide
sometimes i'm scared
but all i really want is to hold u tight
wakakakaka.. tak muat.. cip kodok besau sangat.. heheheheheh
u're really an eye opener & heart catcher..
panjang sangat tulis... maleh nak baca la... tapi kau memang best (^@^)
well..budaya harap mengharap ni mmg budaya kita..nk buat camne cip..
tp part ikhlas tu mmg btulla..i trongly agree that if we ikhlas, kita x mengharap balasan..dan jiwa kita pun x kacau..
bout mizzhani..sadly i have to disagree with u..riak muka x boleh menunjukkan ketulusan hati..ketulusan/keikhlasan tu satu yg subjektif..sometimes muka cam penyangak pun lebih ikhlas daripada org yg kelihatan mulia
this is amazing... it's really you... i thought i stumbled across another pamela anderson wannabe blog.
Hey chip kodok...
It's great to know you realize our "culture" in expecting expectations... It's a hard habit to remove. But not to worry with people like you around to educate I'm sure the future is bright :)
Next post selambe sket ler serious sgt boleh pecah kepapa fikirkan masalah hehe. Tapi kalau nak sedih2 nak pening2 kepala pun takpe your blog brader bukan aku punya hehe.
Salam dari jauh...
Izarrudin, Kota Singa
waaa...tolongla bro Afdlin, ramai org tanya pasal detail BULI BALIK tu, nk design2 poster..dush2...jgn lupa antar kat groups!!!
Power to the GABAN kodoks!
Came across yr blog by chance...now if only the rest of the Top Boys had blogs..or do they ?
Funny thing afdlin, becoz my bespren sorang ni ... memang terkenal ngan sifat blue dia ... memang asyik cerita blue je ... ngan kegemaran dia bercerita pasal yang hardcore style.
So when he got married, we expect nothing less from him la ... mesti hardcore gile gile sampai panjat siling rumah ke.
Then ... my gf ni told me one day yang my bespren ni meluahkan perasaan kat dia yang bini dia nak "mesra" ngan dia tiap tiap malam. Sampai dia tak larat ... sampai dah penat gile. Nak nak bini dia jenis yang memang dari keluarga ustad ustad ni, jenis tak keluar malam/no partying/ and etc.
When you blog I can feel your heart in it. That was what happen when I first encountered your blog. Its your heart and soul in it.
Your sincerity is great. And I love your honesty.
alamak...dah lama tak dengar org sebut perumpamaan tu.. :)
Keikhlasan itu ibarat seekor semut hitam di atas batu yang hitam di malam yang gelap kelam.
Project yg bagus, pasni boleh jadi cam Irfan http://www.rahsiainternet.com/
keep up the good work...
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