You know, the questions i posed in the blog before has been a great ongoing issue in my life. I thank you all for all the great feedback, i am blessed to know that there are so many human-kodoks out there. In a world where inter-human-trust is at it's lowest, i feel like there is a light at the end of a very long tunnel. Something to me, is proven.
My issues are however are something that i guess will never be resolved because hearts are too closely linked and i handle it the best way i can, whenever i face it.
What happened in the bloggers comments was a great exercise, so many people opening up to share their thoughts and some maybe even start to think about their own issues regarding the matter.
Life is about balance, i vehemently believe and concur with my religion on that matter. When the scales are tipped to either side tto much eg. , not caring or even, caring too much, there will be a price to pay, that then will somehow equalise the situation. BUT one thing is for sure, SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN!!
When you don't give money, after giving many times, it doesn't mean you don't care... it means you're frakking broke!! or It COULD ALSO MEAN... that you want the person to find an alternative source of income in order to live, hence forcing him/her to get off their royal backsides to do something. Only a heartless father would let his family starve, when he knows he can do something for them to survive!! ...
the problem i believe stems from our culture of EXPECTING. I come from the mental state that when you do something, especially something good, and EXPECT nothing in return, you have not set yourself up for dissapointment. You see many times WE SABO ourselves by expecting people to act a certain way, when we do something for them and when they don't ,we get hurt.... you see how by EXPECTING you have basically just punk'ed yourself.
Our culture is laden with this value... we expect the government to help us all the time when we create a hole for ourselves, and when they don't, they are bad.....
we expect our family to respect us because as a man, we are the leader of the family even though we are never home, too busy, etc. for the respect to be gained.....
a woman expects her partner to get it on and on and on all night, because women believe men can supposedly get it up at anytime because we have sex on our minds all the time and are more gatal then women. BUT when we can't,.... we're having an affair?? ...... ok the last example is just a selingan ok. takde kena mengena dengan orang hidup atau mati. heehee.
My point is that is why the islamic concept of saying 'Ikhlas' is very powerful. Because it means what i am doing is sincere, from the bottom of my heart and i don't expect anything in return.
WHEN one doesn't come from EXPECT, whenever somebody does something favourable for you in return, it feels like a gift. a bonus from god if you like. MOST IMPORTANTLY, YOU DON'T SABOTAGE YOURSELF INTO HEARTACHE AND PAIN.
That is why in the business world, they have reworked the EXPECT factor out, by making people sign contracts. NOW I EXPECT YOU TO DO SOMETHING BECAUSE YOU ARE HAVE AGREED TO A LEGAL BINDING DOCUMENT TO DO SO AND IF YOU DON"T, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SUE YOUR ASS OFF IN A COURT OF LAW, WHERE YOU WILL THEN BE SENTENCED TO GO TO JAIL AND GET YOUR SALAD TOSSED BY AN OVERSIZED FELLOW INMATE WITH AN OVERSIZED RIGHT ARM ETC. ETC.
That is why god gave us free will isn't it?? so that we can rise above animals and not become creatures of habit but beings who are constantly trying to find a way to become better... although i am not extremely knowledgable religiously, but isn't that what the religion requires of all of us.
But then again, this is just the opinion and ramblings of a COMEDIAN who everyone EXPECTS to be funny all the time.
IKHLAS TAPI JAUH
PS next post will be a cheerful one i promise!!.. heehee i will also be giving clues to the teka kaki competition. Plus PROJECT : AFDLIN SHAUKI DAH HILANG AKAL update. FILEM RAKYAT PROJECT. and many more goodies... chow chin